10 Ways The French Cultivate Radiance & Attractiveness

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Time is definitely flying by. We celebrated Theo’s 2nd birthday with a “daddy-made” cake the morning of the day I left for France. Boy did that day arrive fast! 2 years old already. Really?

The interesting thing is that while I was in France, I remembered some important things about slowing down and enjoying life. I implemented a few key changes since I’ve been back and I’ve already seen some improvements in my life and in my family’s life. So, I thought I would share those with you in today’s featured article:  “10 Ways The French Cultivate Radiance & Attractiveness”. Enjoy!


10 Ways The French Cultivate Radiance & Attractiveness

Wow, what a trip!

As you might know, I just spent 3 weeks in France and I’m really excited about sharing a few nuggets with you that I picked up (or more accurately, remembered!) while I was there.

You see, whether you like the French or not, there is an energy and a way of being, some principles they generally abide by, which are really good for one’s  Radiance, Attractiveness and Presence. It might be one of the reasons so many people find the French attractive? Worth looking at…

[Now, I'm not saying The French are perfect and you should do everything they do! Far from it. Yet, I have chosen to skip over the "don'ts", because we all know that smoking cigarettes is bad for your health, ages the skin and gives you a hoarse voice, for example, all of which affect your degree of attractiveness].

Before I go any further, I wish to talk about attractiveness and Beauty. They are 2 different things. Attractiveness is the ability one has to be magnetic, appreciated, wanted, desired, not only in a romantic fashion, but in business as well. We want to do business with people we “know, like and trust”, that means that we are “attracted to”. Wouldn’t you agree? That’s what I believe.

And what I know is that as women, we often feel so much pressure to “be Beautiful”, and when we don’t think we are beautiful, we judge ourselves negatively and can even give up on “making an effort”.

And it’s true, not everyone is born with the qualities that our society has defined as “Modern Beauty” (although I believe we all have our own flavor of beauty) yet, everyone has the ability to be attractive, no matter their age, size, ethnicity or background.  Why do I say that? Because attractiveness starts within and it starts with believing you can be attractive and then doing things to help you with that. It does take some time, energy and effort. But isn’t it worth cultivating? I believe it is. And here are 10 ways to help you with that!

1. RELAX….Aaaaaaah!!!  Nathalie Lounging on a Hammock at Les Labadous

In our day and age, we are moving so fast. Literally, as in airplanes that go 500 – 600 miles per hour, or cars that go 100 miles + per hour. Figuratively as in from one  phone call or meeting to the next, without a break, having 50 windows open in our internet browser,  our mind constantly going.

The French seem to have a way of slowing down and relaxing that is built into the lifestyle. Most boutiques are closed an hour or two at lunch time and on Sundays. People there take time off and enjoy longer vacation than we do in the US.

Giving yourself the time to relax is crucial.

The problem is, if it’s not in your calendar, it probably won’t happen. So, make sure you allow some time in your schedule, be it with a good book or on a massage table. Treat yourself to some down time. You deserve it and your to-do list can wait…

(This pic is of me relaxing in a hammock in Rennes Le Chateau, a Magical little village in the South of France where I did a personal retreat before starting my work in Paris. It was exactly what the doctor ordered!!!)


One thing that makes me feel great and gives me the impression to be on vacation even when I’m not, is eating outside. France has a lot of terraces at cafes and restaurants to enjoy the outdoors. Something you can do now is take your breakfast Al Fresco (laptop there for once you’re done eating, so you can have an “outdoor office” too). Or take a few minutes to get outside during your lunch break. Your body will enjoy some much needed sun light and your mind will be more relaxed and creative!

(This pic is of my breakfast nook  at the Bed & Breakfast I stayed at in Rennes Le Chateau)

3. ENJOY YOUR FOOD!!! photo-4.JPG

So, here is the thing, The French not only make what I consider to be the best food in the world, they also take their time eating it. They understand that a meal is a time of celebration and enjoyment and in fine restaurants, they only expect one seating, meaning they don’t pressure you to leave because they want other people to come and sit down. On the contrary they want you to stay as long as possible and enjoy yourself.

Treat yourself to a long luxurious meal with your spouse/partner or a friend, and take as long as you want without feeling rushed, and enjoying the company. Bon appetit.

(This picture was taken with my client and amazing business woman who is up to great things, Lee Richter and a new amazing friend, Leona Wallace (and the Fabulous Lindsay Miller was taking the picture, of course!) and we had the most exquisite meal at a 3 Star Michelin Restaurant in Paris named “L’Ambroisie”. Absolutely divine. I highly recommend it!)


This might sound obvious, yet it’s true and the French have it down. It’s really rare to see people eating walking down the street or in their car. They allot time for their meals and they sit down.

It’s one of the most basic and important ways that you can be good to yourself. Take the time to sit a table (no, your computer desk doesn’t count!) and avoid distractions (like TV, movies etc…) while you eat, except the company of your family or friends.

Ayurveda (the traditional medicine of India I am trained in) says the same thing. Having your attention on what you eat and actually chewing more allows you to digest your food better and eat less. And if you are in a hurry, it’s better to eat less, slowly, than to eat more food without chewing properly. Watch your digestion improve and you might even shed a few pounds with this healthy practice!

5. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH BEAUTYA Room In The Chateau de Chantilly

France is magnificent! If you’ve been there, you know what I’m talking about. If you haven’t been, you’ll be delighted when you see it (in fact you will have a chance to come back with me, perhaps in October when I go back, I’ll tell you more about that opportunity in an email later this month, so stay tuned….)

Seriously, the countryside is breathtaking and so is the architecture (and the people are not bad to look at either ;). In addition, people have a keen sense of beauty. They appreciate it and want it around. I was talking with the lady I rented my flat from, and it’s amazing, right on Place Des Vosges, in one of the oldest areas of Paris. And she said to me, “I don’t buy anything that I don’t think is beautiful”. Wow! What a value to live by. When you see Beauty everywhere you look, it makes you smile and uplifts your spirits. So choose the things that you love and are beautiful in your environment. You can start by adding something you love to look at and place it near your computer, so you can see it often while you work.

(This pic is of a room in the Chateau de Chantilly, one of the most beautiful Chateaus in France where Lee and I spent a day)

6. PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILSMain Course at L'Ambroisie

The French are notorious for paying attention to the details that make a difference, be it from how the presentation of the food they serve, to the way they wrap the clothes or jewelry in the Parisian boutiques. The daintiness, the delicacy, the coordination, the color schemes, it all creates an impression. When you put yourself together, when you get ready, slow down, pay attention and make sure all the little details are handled.


When you give a gift, take the extra 30 seconds it takes to make sure the silk paper is folder properly. The prettier the packaging, the more value one attributes to the gift! Think of the little blue box: Tiffany or the little red box: Cartier. Doesn’t just seeing the box triggers an assumption of luxury, prestige and quality? So use that to your advantage. Remember, you are a gift to all those that surround. And the classier “your packaging”, the more valuable people will attribute to you and your gifts.

(Pic above is of the main course I had at L’Ambroisie. And pic to the right is of some curtains in the flat I rented in Paris. They are made of the finest linen and I love how they are tied, as well as the iron work on the window).


France, if I had to give her a gender, would be feminine. Many of the feminine values are honored, respected, cherished and encouraged there. Creativity, Art, Beauty,  Sensuality, Enjoying Life, Being in the now moment. The pace is different, it allows you to slow down and drop into yourself. So naturally, you can savor a more juicy, yummy and exquisite experience.

So nurture the feminine aspects of you. Best ways to do that are dancing, spending time in nature, doing Yoga, Meditation, going to the Spa with your girlfriends, being extremely nurturing and good to yourself and one of the biggies: listen to your intuition. And of course, this list wouldn’t be complete without the “savor some chocolate” mention! (Here I am savoring a cup of the best chocolate in Paris, at Angelina’s).

8. LEARN FROM THE PAST (don’t reinvent the wheel)The Library at The Chateau de Chantilly

There is so much history there and the stones, the buildings, the beams, all tell stories. There are also traditions and ways of doing things that have been passed down for generations. Learning from the past cuts down learning time and doesn’t stifle innovation, yet gives an unfair advantage.

Standing on the shoulders of giants in your lineage, honoring those that came before you and learning from them, and of course, not reinventing the wheel are great ways to achieve more with less effort. What can you re-purpose, re-use and transform in your wardrobe and in your business that can be useful for you and save you time, energy and money?

9. GIVE YOURSELF THE BEST OF THE BEST (treat yourself like a VIP) Mohamed in front of his car in Paris.jpg

The French are notorious for wanting the best of things. Best ingredients for their cuisine, best perfumes, best clothes, etc… And I must admit, enjoying Paris with a private chauffeur is a different experience than taking the metro! (Here is our private chauffeur in front his car when he came to pick us up one morning).

Something really amazing happens when you let yourself receive a much higher level of service. All of a sudden, things become easier and you start to enjoy the kinds of experiences you truly wish for. Life becomes more fun and exquisite. Go ahead, give it a try.

And Lee Richter taught me so much about that on that trip as well!  (Thank you Lee! :) )

10. MAKE IT A POINT TO DO THE THINGS YOU LOVEGetting This Beautiful Pashmina Scarf

It’s true that being an entrepreneur is amazing. You are so blessed to make your own hours, work with your ideal clients and do something you are passionate about. What a blessing!

The challenge, though, is to keep healthy boundaries around “work time” and not let the business take over all aspect of your life. Before I left for France, I was definitely working on that one myself and being in France helped me “reset” things to a healthier level because the French, it seems, have their priorities straight: joie de vivre et qualite de vie (Joy of Life and Quality of Life are two biggies there).  My husband is happy about my new commitment, and so am I.


To be more magnetic, more attractive to the things and people you want to draw to you, do the things you love and which make you come alive.

Embody what the qualities, energies you want to experience more of, now. Why wait?

Meditating in the cave in the South of France where Mary Magdalene is said to have spent time was a dream of mine, and I did it. That was a highlight of the trip for me. What have you been dying to do that you have been putting off doing? Schedule it. Do it soon. And tell me what happened as a result. I’d love to hear.

Here’s to your radiance!


PS: I have a resource for you if you would like access to a private car at a rate more affordable than a taxi: Uber. Started in the San Francisco Bay Area, that company has expanded to most major cities.

All you need to do is download the app to your cell phone and sign-up for a free account. You pay as you go. We used it a lot while in Paris on days we didn’t have our chauffeur and I am now using this service when I travel, using it instead of airport shuttles and instead of taxis.I love it because:

  1. You can see how close the car you are requesting is.
  2. You can choose the kind of car (regular up to “black car, which is nicer).
  3. You can pick your driver based on a review and rating system.
  4. There is no exchange of money between you and the driver, it happens automatically within your account (so even if you have no cash on you, you’re never to be stranded again!). And,
  5. The drivers tend to be a lot friendlier, safer and more helpful than cab drivers.

When you sign-up with this link you will receive a $10 credit toward your first ride (and so will I). Win-win. Give it a try and tell me how you like it.  Hopefully you will love it too.
Click here —> https://uber.com/invite/uberNathalieInvite

Why I do what I do…

There is nothing more rewarding than seeing the results of my work with my clients, and for them to be completely overjoyed with their new look. The new found confidence in themselves makes my heart sing to no end. This is Glenda before (this is the picture she had on her website before we worked together).

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And this is Glenda after. What do you think? You see why it makes me so happy?

I know she will get way more clients and make way more money as a result of our work together.

It’s time for me to come out of the closet…

A few weeks ago, I attended an event that blew my mind called “The Conscious Business Playground” organized by the fabulous Bill Baren and Patrick Dominguez.

At that invitation-only elite event, about 100 of our industry’s luminaries came together and we explored the question “what does it mean to be a conscious business owner?”

As you can imagine, the networking was off the charts, check out who I got to hang out with…


With Brian Burt, Founder & CEO of www.Maestroconference.com (he is a great dancer, by the way!)



With PJ Van Hulle, a dear friend I’ve know for years. Her site http://www.howtojumpstartyourlist.com


With Sabine Messner, powerful Shaman of http://www.soulpurposebranding.com/ and the fabulous Lindsay Miller of www.themarketingphotographer.com (Lindsay and I are cooking some amazing stuff for early 2014. Stay tuned. It will be HOT!!!)


With the amazing Jeffrey Van Dyk of http://bigvisionbusiness.com/enlightenedentrepreneurclub/


With the unbelievable Adam Urbanski of http://themarketingmentors.com/ (This guy is a genius! And he is super generous too. I totally fell in love with him. Shhh…don’t tell my hubby, that’s not what I wanted to come out of the closet about!!!)


With the beautiful and talented Madeleine Silva of www.chiropracticallyyours.com


With the powerful and amazing Nan Akasha and her sweetie: http://www.nanakasha.com/ And Alex “Being Epic” Iglecia. This guy is epic!!! Love his stage presence. ;) www.alexiglecia.com/


With Brian Driscoll (he is the director of everything awesome for Bill & Patrick and has become a dear friend). I love Brian!

Dr. Tom Yarema, Tomasa macapinlac & Me at CBP

With the amazing Dr. Tom Yarema of www.getyourbodyback.com Dr. Tom and I are also cooking up some yummy stuff. Stay tuned. And my soul sister Tomasa Macapinlac (more on her on the next pic)


With my soul sister, the beautiful, powerful and heartfelt Tomasa “The Business Mojo Mentor” of http://www.tomasamacapinlac.com


With the fabulous Sandy Zeldes of http://eatlikeagoddess.com/ Sandy and I are also going to collaborate on some cool stuff.


With the awesome Kendra Thornbury of http://www.kendrathornbury.com/ and the magical Eva Gregory of http://www.evagregory.com

And there were many more amazing peeps I got to play with too…

But it wasn’t all about goofing off, we did get some work done, too!

One of the things we explored was the concept of 3rd stage relationships (where it’s not just about yours and mine, but everyone else’s well-being as well).

And it also means committing to telling the truth to each other with the intention of supporting everyone in being their BEST SELF.

It’s not always easy to tell the truth to people we love. Not if we perceive that the Truth will “hurt” them. But will it? Temporarily, it might sting a little, but then, they will be empowered to do something about whatever it was you talked to them about.

Something happened at that event that made me completely re-think everything I do!

When having a conversation with a powerful Shaman there, I broke down into tears. I started to sob uncontrollably for what felt like an eternity. It was like someone hit me upside the head and literally woke me up.

I came out of my stupor and realized that I HAD TO COME OUT OF THE SPIRITUAL CLOSET. I am a healer. I am a High Priestess. I work with energy and other planes of existence. I work with intuition and I go deep. I am clair-sentient and empathic.

I have ‘cut-off’ that part of myself for 7 years. And it’s time to bring Her back. It’s time to bring the Magical part of me back into my life and my business. Otherwise, why bother?

I want to bring the magic back into everything I do and bless my clients with the gifts of deep healing as I work with them. What I do is not superficial. Even though I work with color and style, my big WHY is because I want women to experience more Self-love. I want women to feel empowered and confident…not just about the way they look…but that is a great place to start!

How will this integration of my Healer self back into my business will play out? I don’t know. But one thing is for sure, I’m not leaving Her behind anymore.

And I also know that I am committing to being in 3rd stage relationship with you. And that means telling the truth.

In that light, I have something to share with you which will benefit you, me and all the people you are here to serve.

Look, I care about you. A lot. And I want the best for you. And if there is something I can do to help you be MORE SUCCESSFUL in your business, I will do it!

That’s why I am inviting you to spend some time with me on Wednesday. Join me for 5 Simple (& Inexpensive) Style Makeover Secrets live webinar.

Join me HERE

It will be my “coming out” party and I want you there with me. It will be good for you, good for me and good for the planet.

In Magic and in Truth, I honor you!

And I’d love to hear your thoughts on all this…post a comment below to tell me how this is all landing for you and if you can relate.